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Confidence - How's Yours?

One of the most common reasons for people joining our programs is confidence. This is such a big issue for men, women, and children. Confidence is an interesting subject because it's a specific issue. For instance: most people are confident in their ability at work or in their hobbies or within their family circle. Yet, take them out of that comfort zone and their confidence plummets. Not having confidence is being afraid. That's what lack of confidence is, fear. And no fear is having confidence. The most understandable fear is based on real danger. for instance, if you were in a jungle and you saw a wild tiger then your fear would be real because the tiger might attack and kill you. This is justified fear. In this instance, you be right to have no confidence to move or be seen. But often the fears that reduce our confidence in daily life are not based on physical danger but emotional danger. Fear of ridicule for one. If we want to make a speech for instance. If we make the speech to an empty room, we have confidence or at least no fear of making a mistake. But if that same speech must be delivered to 100 people, suddenly we are fearful and our confidence can fail us. This is psychological fear compared to actual fear, but to our minds they are just the same. Whilst the physical danger is not real our bodies respond as if it were because it's real to us. Our goal in AEGIS is to show people that it's ok to get things wrong or to not be good at something. No one is naturally an expert. We must practice and gain skill through trial and error. This is how we learn, through experience. There's no such thing as looking stupid. Instead, we applaud a brave attempt because that's shown courage. If we get things right the first time what have we learnt? We could say that it was down to luck, but we haven't learnt anything from that experience. We don't understand how we succeeded so we have no reference to fix things if we get it wrong later. It's important to get things wrong and hopefully to get better at each subsequent attempt because that way we learn how to do things and build skill. Often, we get ridiculed at school for failing and falling. Other kids laugh and might mock us for weeks, even years after. Sensitive kids are particularly vulnerable to this and it can ruin their school life and even run into their adult life if it's not fixed early on. The key is to build confidence gradually. Step by step and one task at a time. Work on one thing at a time till you're reasonably happy with it before adding another level. In time, we add more techniques or more complicated versions but because the student has a base of understanding through repeating new actions till, they become comfortable, we don't feel like a failure if we then make a mistake. Also, it's important to support people as they fail and not to ridicule them. The only failure really is failure to try but sometimes our confidence can be so low we are too afraid to have a go. This is where it helps to support each other. If a child or spouse is fearful of trying something new, be gentle. Coax them, encourage them. Praise them for trying. Every attempt brings them closer to a success. You see, once you overcome an obstacle or fear, your confidence grows a little. And each time you try, you do so with a little less fear than before, until you don't care whether you succeed or fail because you have confidence that you'll succeed if you keep trying. If you have confidence issues, let us help you to dispel them. We'll show you how to reveal your inner power and it often happens in minutes, not days or weeks, minutes. We’ve seen this a thousand times before and we have created systems for developing massive confidence fast!

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